Getting It Through My Thick Skull

Getting It Through My Thick Skull

Why I Stayed, What I Learned, and What Millions of People Involved With Sociopaths Need to Know

Book - 2009
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After seventeen years, the author breaks her silence as to why she stayed with Joey Buttafuocco for so long after her husband's mistress, Amy Fisher, shot her in the head, in an account where the author says that she was married to a sociopath and includes never-before-published letters. 400,000 first printing.

Health Communications Inc.

"I think, every once in a while, about the life I should be living, the one I fully expected to be enjoying right about now. In the life I was supposed to have, my husband and I would be admiring the view from our waterfront home in the town where we were both born and raised. Good friends and neighbors would be next door, up the street, and all over the neighborhood. Our parents would live only blocks away, in our childhood homes. We'd be taking our grandchildren to the beach club on weekends, enjoying the fruits of our labors and looking forward to a peaceful retirement. That was the plan, anyway . . . but the whole world knows how that turned out."

Mary Jo Buttafuoco's anonymous life as a suburban wife and mother in sleepy Massapequa, New York, on Long Island, ended in May 1992, when she was shot in the head on her own front porch. The 'Long Island Lolita' saga sparked a media frenzy that has not died to this day. As the years passed and Mary Jo steadfastly stood by her man while Joey Buttafuoco and Amy Fisher continued to make headlines, one question lingered in the minds of women everywhere: Why did she stay for so long? In Getting It Through My Thick Skull, Mary Jo finally answers that question fully and convincingly. The answer is simple, yet it took almost three decades of turmoil: She was married to a sociopath. And while Mary Jo's face and story are known all over the world, she's just one of countless women who have become similarly enmeshed with a partner who wreaks utter havoc on the lives around them.

Using her own experiences, Mary Jo helps readers determine if they are indeed involved with a sociopath and offers hope and help for them throughher tragic and triumphant life lessons. In addition, readers will be inspired by Mary Jo's comeback: A true reclamation and re-creation of her life from the inside out. Through private details of the resiliency and rebuilding she has forged over the past sixteen years, Mary Jo shares with readers for the first time:

  • Her addiction to painkillers and her recovery through the Betty Ford Center
  • Her overdue decision to leave Joey and start over again on her own in California-3,000 miles from her support system
  • Taking control of her physical, spiritual, and emotional health and learning to feel attractive and in control again, despite the scars and trauma of the gunshot
  • Her highly controversial and public forgiveness of Amy Fisher
  • The new love in her life and how she found the courage to trust, believe, and find hope in a committed relationship once again

& Taylor

After seventeen years, the author breaks her silence as to why she stayed with Joey Buttafuocco for so long after her husband's mistress, Amy Fisher, shot her in the head, in an account where the author claims that she was married to a sociopath.

Publisher: Deerfield Beach, Fla. : Health Communications, c2009
ISBN: 9780757313721
Branch Call Number: B BUT
Characteristics: 255p. : ports, ; 24 cm
Additional Contributors: McCarron, Julie


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Aug 09, 2014

very sad what happened to her for all of the years of pain from amy and joey. but I still think amy got a bad time too.

Aug 01, 2012

I thought Mary Jo was actually very fair to all characters in this book. She took the blame for a lot of stuff she chose to overlook; expressed sympathy for Joey, even though he really seems to the rest of us to be undeserving, and had a lot of sympathy for her attacker, pointing out what she did but compared/contrasted it with the girl's age and life experiences. An excellent cautionary tale, however, a bit repetitive.


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